Changes or The Same?

Posted by: Ms Ayain Ms Aya's Papers

Sheep is so bored right now and thought sheep should update PaperDiaries however with this empty head of mine — There is just no brain juice flowing out to my fingertips! (Tears)

Having that said, please pardon the poorly constructed words and thoughts!

Life has been rather kind to me as I have zero problems at home and at work in which I am thankful to be spared from unnecessary dramas. However at times I do wish for something dramatic to happen rather than an uneventful life because from happenings, you actually learn and get something out from it. Even a mistake as an outcome is welcomed because an empty result is plain and useless.

For instance you conduct a science experiment with 2 different specimens to observe their reaction to a chemical of the same substance. At the end of the experiment, Subject A reacts to the chemical while Subject B remains as in the initial stage.

Now here, we all will be captivated differently. You may be amazed by the changes in Subject A because of the drastic reconstruction caused by a single chemical. While I on the other hand is fascinated at how Subject B can remain the way it was despite the mixture and stay unaffected.

I guess we can apply this ‘theory’ on people, do you agree?

You will definitely have friends who changes over time as well as some of those who are still the way they are. Be it environment, lifestyle or events that shaped them — there will always be an outcome.

Some of us admire the changes in our friends. From a quiet guy to an extremely bold and outspoken person. We surely take notice of such transformation. Of course it depends on what kind of changes one undergoes; positive or negative.

As above, a timid introvert who begins to speak out his beautiful thoughts is a positive change… Unless he becomes a condescending who insults people then yea, that is a negative whereby you are giving up your good traits to be immoral. In other words, like a fallen angel.

So think about it. Do you know of anyone who had changed drastically and one who is the same old same old individual?

Which attracts you the most?

Do you find that people who don’t transform to be dull and uninteresting?

I give you some time to flash back, okee?

On my side, I do know a few who became different individuals from before in both positive and negative perspective.

I do salute the ones who has changed for the better however, what I think I am attracted to are those who can stay the way they have always been. Especially those who possessed really good traits and values. I think it is amazing how these people can preserve themselves from influences and confusions. No matter what happens, they stay the same and that is what I would say — truly pure hearted.

Gossips and rumours are always breeding among people, in attempt to create enemies and ill thoughts among each other. You may have been a victim to this whereby your friend discourages you from befriending this girl. She tells you how bad that other girl is and always updating you her supposedly misdeeds. You have never actually spoken to that girl but you trust your friend so you took her advice and have vicious thoughts of her.

And when you finally get to know this girl, you realized how much of a good person she is and how things could have been different for both of you if only you were not influenced by your friend.

Derailing from the topic? No. People become different with such influences.

Enough about my output. And you — snap out of your flash back and tell me something! (Laughs)

Do you like people who changes? Or one who does not?
What kind of changes do you admire? Which part of ourselves should we preserve?
Do you think you have changed?
Ne? Ne? *pesters*

PS: Sorry for the lack of visual aid. Sheep is using her iPad to blog and am not literate with HTML.

20120412-013401 PM.jpg

This entry was posted on Thursday, April 12th, 2012 at 1:33 pm and is filed under Ms Aya's Papers. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.

5 comments so far

1.  dino-chan
April 14th, 2012 at 12:44 pm

Tough question……mmm…well, the real answer is depend on the situation though. If the environment was not healthy, is better that person change. He/she can’t stay there though.

I guess people changes is due to survival issue. I am not sure about this though.

Since my first day of work, one of my colleague actually was boycott by another colleague and the group. But I, being friend I decided to be neutral and I friend with everyone, including this boycotted girl.

Her attitude is cold towards everyone because you know, left alone and no one wants to talk to her. Is only me the one who will have lunch with her, or else she will have lunch by herself. She opens her mouth when is related to jobs only lol

Can you imagine? For not talking most of the time? If for me I cannot, but is the situation that makes her this way. So I was not understand why she can be like that? Why can’t she change and talk to them?

Till last week, I also kena boycott for some childish reason by that colleague lol ….. so now here I am, together on the same boat with that boycotted girl. Then the girl tell me ” Now finally you understand how I feel”

I was speechless, and I was thinking, should I try my best to fix things up and see whether me and that colleague can be as friends? So I tried my very best everyday. In the end, the result was still the same.

So now, this situation has forced me to change. I have to be the same as that boycotted colleague. T_T ~ Coz really, I tried everything but to no avail. sigh… I’m not used to it, coz I am the type when I’m friendly with someone I really will try my best to make up back….well, this time is so different.

But thanks to this incident, I learn that people changes believe it or not … no matter is small matter or big. And once they change, is scary ;( ~ I also learn that nothing stays forever and be careful when talking to people from now on lol
My answers to your question is
1) I like people changes, doesn’t matter the outcome is bad or good, because surely we will learn something from it and understand more about life.

2) The changes that I admire?…. I can’t think of at this moment….. gomen!

3) I guess, continue to respect people and stay smart is most important as society nowadays full with politics…. l;( sad case..

4) Yes! I have changed LOL .. till I can’t accept it, I was silent for 2 days… HAHAHAHAHAH. Look at my previous tweets! all emo!!! But now, I am awake from it …

PS: How’s your iPad? ^_^

2.  Ms Aya
April 15th, 2012 at 4:30 pm

Dear Dino-chan

Taihen yo ne?
Have you both ever confronted this colleague of yours? Or bring the matter up to your Management? Does she even have valid reasons to screw the both of you?

Before this, you used to tweet happy stuff about work (food and gifts) as sheep remembers. Dakara urusanai wa, aitsu!

This kind of treatment certainly changes one self and it will affect your performance in work and relationship with others. Kawai sou! However I think you should not change yourself to be submissive because that colleague will get things her way while making you look bad.

Do not let such a person ruin you kudasai! XD

Reply to PS: It’s good! Very mobile and can do many things! Sheep tried using FaceTime, much like webcam to communicate visually with brother. It was smooth and very audible; no need for mic and earphones! 凄く楽しいよ! XD

3.  Dino-chan
April 18th, 2012 at 10:29 pm

It has been a week plus since that incident. Guess I’m used to it lol. Since then I been thinking a lot and feel cautious over everything :(

Ipad2 desune?
How much? And since when you decided to buy one? Lol

4.  long
April 26th, 2012 at 8:16 am

just take it easy..that kind of rejection happens all the time..sometimes,whatever you do,it won’t matter..
your change could be temporary change..maybe you are new to this kind of’s up to you to find your balance..

5.  olihmajor
May 2nd, 2012 at 9:33 am

That is something to think about… very nicely put. I know someone who has changed very drastically. She was a good friend of mine for many years, and I can remember the happy times we had when we were all one big bunch of silly friends… Unfortunately, none of us really saw each other over the summer one year, and when we came back this friend really changed. She changed her style, her manner, her taste… everything completely. I’m not saying that’s bad. Change is good! (Sometimes.) Thing is, she changed her attitude for the worse, too. She thought the rest of us, her long-time friends, were ‘uncool’ and ‘unpopular’, and ditched us to go hang out with the ‘cool’ kids. She even insulted one of our other friends for no good reason, saying that her singing was terrible (which was something that our other friend is proud of, and very good at).

So now we are not friends with this other person anymore, and it makes me very sad.

Although this kind of change can be bad, change can be good, too. We all go through change in our lives, though some people change more than others. When we change, we grow, and even if it’s a negative experience we learn something. I still marvel at how much I have changed over the years. In one year, even! It’s a wonderful thing, really… just don’t lose sight of what’s really important~

I hope I can still fix the friendship with that friend.


Leave a reply

Name (*)
Mail (will not be published) (*)